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A Breakup | ||||||
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A breakup can be easily understood by looking at the variables that causes it.
A breakup is mathematically written as: Probability of a Breakup = -(negative net benefit from current love + commitment) negative net benefit of current love = cost of current love > benefits of current love | ||||||
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*Note: Only include for love that accidentally evolved from a previous friendship.
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Below are the explanations of all the costs of a breakup according to Love Economics:
1. Breakup Emotional Cost If you are the one being dumped, your emotional cost may be lowered self-esteem, depression, loneliness, and/or regret. If you are the one who initiated the breakup, you may feel guilty for inflicting so much pain on your former lover or wasting his/her time. Both you and your former lover may suffer love withdrawal symptoms, such as anxiety, insomnia, and loneliness after the breakup. 2. Breakup Financial Cost If your relationship was serious, additional financial cost may emerge. If you are married and getting a divorce, your former spouse may be entitled to half of your net worth. Also, you both may have to hire divorce lawyers. You may have to pay alimony if you have children. If you moved in with your lover, you may have to find another place to live. If you are engaged, your fiancé may decide to keep the engagement ring. 3. Total Benefit of Current Love When love ends, all benefits of that love are lost. 4. Unrealized Invested Cost of Current Love: Emotional, Time, & Financial Cost As a relationship's duration increases, the total cost of love increases. After breaking up, the expected returns from invested cost of finding, researching, and maintaining your doomed relationship will not be fully realized. As people invest more time, money, and emotions into a relationship, people become more committed to the relationship. It is hard for people to admit to themselves that they have made the wrong choice and have wasted their time, money, and emotions on the wrong person. 5. Search Cost for Another Love What is your search cost of finding someone comparable or better than your existing lover? If the relationship ends, could you find another love? What will the market for you look like? 6. Rejection Cost for Another Love What is the rejection cost for another love? How will you feel if you are rejected by another love? 7. Research Cost for Another Love What is the research cost for another lover? How much more time, money, and energy will be spent to verify that your next lover will be the right one. 8. Previous Friendship Loss This cost refers to love that had arisen unexpectedly from a friendship. This cost was invested before the relationship started so this cost differs from the cost that was spent while in love. Usually the best loves are those that started off as friendships. However, the question, whether falling in love would change or end the friendship if the relationship ends, always becomes a big issue. | ||||||
Breaking Up Related InformationA Breakup - a breakup can easily be understood by looking at the variables that cause it.When to Break Up - is breaking up the right decision to make? Good Breakups - why you and your lover are better off ending a relationship. Break Up Advice - by analyzing the break up risk and break up cost variables from Love Economics, all break up problems can be analyzed and solved. | ||||||
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